So glad to have you back, Brandy! This reminds me of a (forgive me) meme I haven't been able to get out of my head lately: "remembering how I was content to remain enduring a familiar sadness when I could have been risking only disappointment for the chance to explore the endless possibilities in this life"
Thanks for finding something in this to be positive about. Having feelings change for a friend always felt for me like a yawning pit of dread opening up, where "get over it asap" was the least-bad option, since that's always what I would have to do in the end
Cis question here - is the intended beloved fully aware of the lack of fully functioning body parts and infertility that is characteristic of transitioned men?
To state the theoretical (“it shouldn’t matter!!!”) doesn’t often jibe with reality.
Perhaps you need to take a step back before you immediately think you are being attacked. Besides if there is no discussion how can we all expect to grow?
No. It’s a fair question!! It could work but eventually the elephant in the room will come out and they will both have to make a decision on if to get married/have children. Is children in the future a dealbreaker? Is adopting a possibility? I mean - we all date in the hopes to find our forever partner. At least most do. I think that was the question Robin had.
Apparently this woman of interest has been a good friend for some time... Possibly through his transition. I'm sure she knows all she needs to. Above all, it is for them to decide the importance of fully functioning apparatus within their relationship. There are lots of ways to show love, to enjoy one another bodies and to have sex.
I wouldn't say your question is stupid, just not well considered and, perhaps, naive.
So glad to have you back, Brandy! This reminds me of a (forgive me) meme I haven't been able to get out of my head lately: "remembering how I was content to remain enduring a familiar sadness when I could have been risking only disappointment for the chance to explore the endless possibilities in this life"
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beautifully written, so excited for this column's return!
Goddamn, this is delightful as fuck.
Best of luck to all involved here. I hope that everybody gets everything that they want.
Thanks for finding something in this to be positive about. Having feelings change for a friend always felt for me like a yawning pit of dread opening up, where "get over it asap" was the least-bad option, since that's always what I would have to do in the end
Beautiful.
Saucy and life affirming
Cis question here - is the intended beloved fully aware of the lack of fully functioning body parts and infertility that is characteristic of transitioned men?
To state the theoretical (“it shouldn’t matter!!!”) doesn’t often jibe with reality.
Please don’t leave stupid comments on my posts ever again
Perhaps you need to take a step back before you immediately think you are being attacked. Besides if there is no discussion how can we all expect to grow?
Why are my questions stupid?
because your question is
a) very weird and invasive
b) reflective of a harmful broader cultural obsession with trans people's genitals
c) deliberately playing dumb as if cis people don't struggle with infertility all the time
d) implying that you're really talking about your own baggage (whose "reality" are you referring to? certainly not mine)
and e) largely irrelevant to the question that was actually asked
No. It’s a fair question!! It could work but eventually the elephant in the room will come out and they will both have to make a decision on if to get married/have children. Is children in the future a dealbreaker? Is adopting a possibility? I mean - we all date in the hopes to find our forever partner. At least most do. I think that was the question Robin had.
Apparently this woman of interest has been a good friend for some time... Possibly through his transition. I'm sure she knows all she needs to. Above all, it is for them to decide the importance of fully functioning apparatus within their relationship. There are lots of ways to show love, to enjoy one another bodies and to have sex.
I wouldn't say your question is stupid, just not well considered and, perhaps, naive.
And, yes, that's what questions are for....