So many beautiful lines in this! Also, YES, it's time to stop denying that external validation is essential to human psychological health, not some disease from which we need to cure ourselves.
Oh come on.... women like you make me want to scream. Get over it.
You're not good enough for him? Really? Because you're not fluent "enough" in English (which is, btw, one of the most difficult languages to learn) ????
Why isn't he learning your first language? If Mr. Perfect isn't willing to share the responsibility for effective communication because he's too busy being outgoing, really smart and entertaining his friends while you sit in a corner and berate yourself for not understanding all the nuances of the English (and particularly American English) language, well, the problem isn't you, it's him. Your speak two languages FFS ! (One is hard enough...) If he's such a great guy, why isn't he working on his language skills ? If he's so fabulously wonderful why doesn't he help you in a tangible way, like learning YOUR first language ?
Give me a break.... I don't buy the "I'm not good enough for him because he speaks better English than I do therefore I'm less than" crap. I don't think your insecurity stems from the language thing, something else is going on. I suggest you do some serious shadow work on yourself to get to the source of your insecurities. Because ultimately, it's not the language thing.
And if he's all you seem to think he is, he'll participate in your journey in a supportive way, like learning your first language (which, btw, you neglected to mention).
Maybe I'm harsh. Maybe I'm judgmental, but honestly, I'm just not buying your the "I'm not good enough because my English isn't nuanced enough." There's more going on here...
"I often reach for mercy in the knowledge that I am loved by people whose opinions I admire and respect." ❤️❤️❤️❤️ i have been thinking about this concept a lot lately
So many beautiful lines in this! Also, YES, it's time to stop denying that external validation is essential to human psychological health, not some disease from which we need to cure ourselves.
Oh come on.... women like you make me want to scream. Get over it.
You're not good enough for him? Really? Because you're not fluent "enough" in English (which is, btw, one of the most difficult languages to learn) ????
Why isn't he learning your first language? If Mr. Perfect isn't willing to share the responsibility for effective communication because he's too busy being outgoing, really smart and entertaining his friends while you sit in a corner and berate yourself for not understanding all the nuances of the English (and particularly American English) language, well, the problem isn't you, it's him. Your speak two languages FFS ! (One is hard enough...) If he's such a great guy, why isn't he working on his language skills ? If he's so fabulously wonderful why doesn't he help you in a tangible way, like learning YOUR first language ?
Give me a break.... I don't buy the "I'm not good enough for him because he speaks better English than I do therefore I'm less than" crap. I don't think your insecurity stems from the language thing, something else is going on. I suggest you do some serious shadow work on yourself to get to the source of your insecurities. Because ultimately, it's not the language thing.
And if he's all you seem to think he is, he'll participate in your journey in a supportive way, like learning your first language (which, btw, you neglected to mention).
Maybe I'm harsh. Maybe I'm judgmental, but honestly, I'm just not buying your the "I'm not good enough because my English isn't nuanced enough." There's more going on here...
Just sayin'.
"I often reach for mercy in the knowledge that I am loved by people whose opinions I admire and respect." ❤️❤️❤️❤️ i have been thinking about this concept a lot lately
Oomph just going deep on it now
Yes, and also, DAMN, that was a good one Brandi! 🔥
elm
well, it *was*!